Reality T.V will really have you thinking that women can’t achieve high vibrational relationships with one another. In reality, more women are striving to be a positive force in their friends lives rather than tearing one another down. Your siSTAR tribe is there for fun, laughs, new love, adventures, breakups, and of course brunch, but your friendships should also empower and challenge growth within each other. Constant evolution is what keeps friendships thriving, long lasting, and meaningful. Its important that we work on these connections in our lives to make sure we are evolving together to our higher selves. Heres 5 healthy ways to light up your sistar circle with positivity.
1. Hold your friends accountable for what they tell you.
Many times our friends run ideas by us that they are thinking about acting on in their lives. They share their new plans for self care routines, career goals, mindsets, or eating habits and hopefully you are listening. Be the friend that holds your friends accountable for what they share with you. Inquire how their journey of getting started is going or help them map out a plan to break their goals in smaller steps. They shared what they want to manifest into their lives with you because they trust in you. Hold your friends accountable through their actions to fully manifest that change. Try creative ways of setting goals together such as vision board parties or simply writing your goals out together. Working to manifest your dreams in a group and encouraging each other’s progress creates an empowering sister circle.
Look in vs Lookin’’ Vision Board Edition with Tiff McFierce in Las Vegas, Nevada. Vision boards parties are a creative way to set goals with friends.
2. Pour more tea, spread less.
All to often there are friend groups that are more concerned with discussing who is doing what and where. A lot more women engage in this type of conversation than would like to admit. Maybe you have a friend who is always initiating this type of conversation and its easy for you or your friends to get caught up in the conversation. Create healthy topics of discussion that aren’t centered on the happenings or shortcomings of others. Be the friend to switch the topic when negativity is brought to light. Some of your friends may not even realize they have this habit! Encourage more healthy discussions in your sistar circles and create more positive energy.
3. Ladies Night!
Going out with your girls can be fun! Getting dressed to slay, doing make up, and throwing on a sexy pair of heels for a night out drinking and curving Kings makes for a great time with your girls. However, avoid letting these be the only link up’s you make with your girls. Girls time can also be yoga, trying new foods, physical activities like bike riding, or learning something new. A night in doing self care activities with good energies and deep laughs that you feel in your soul can be just as fun (and arguably more therapeutic) as a night out at the club. Switch it up sometimes!
4. Practice Listening
Sometimes the part of communication that we can all work at is listening rather than speaking. Practice listening before responding when your friend tells you stories or discusses problems. Ask your friends how they are and fully listen to the answer. Sometimes our own friends are fighting battles that we can’t always hold their hands through on their daily journeys. Many times people don’t even want our advice or a response, they just want some one to hear out their thoughts. Practice being present and listening more.
5. Show up and celebrate
Celebrate your tribe’s ideas, business ventures, promotions, and anything good the universe sends their way. It feels good to have people in your circle that genuinely support and celebrate your ideas and achievements. Support can be emotional, financial, or physical by showing up and being present when they need it. No matter what stage of your life that you are in, you can always give some form of support authentically to your siStar tribe. Be the friend that is always there and lights up at the others’ blessing’s as if they were yours.
Peace and light, Chare’A Smith